Nigerian singer and actor Banky W has offered a rare, deeply personal reflection on his marriage to actress Adesua Etomi, opening up about how their relationship has been shaped by understanding, resilience, and a willingness to ignore societal pressure.
Speaking on the Teju Babyface Show, Banky W challenged long-standing expectations around gender roles in marriage, revealing that their household dynamic is far from traditional. In a candid moment, he shared that he is often the one in the kitchen.
“There are some men who insist their wives must cook, but my wife does not really cook, even though she can cook very well, it’s just not her thing,” he said.
He explained that their arrangement works not because it follows convention, but because it is built on mutual comfort and compatibility. While he enjoys cooking, his wife enjoys eating—something he says has created a natural balance in their home.
“Some people come to our house and see me cooking and feel uncomfortable, but it works for us,” he added, encouraging couples to define their own standards rather than live by external expectations.
“What works for you will be different from somebody else. Don’t live your life by somebody else’s rules,” he said.
Beyond domestic life, Banky W also reflected on one of the most challenging periods in their marriage—their journey to parenthood. He spoke emotionally about Adesua Etomi’s endurance through multiple IVF attempts, describing it as a season that tested them both deeply.
“I’ve seen her go through things that would break people. She kept getting back up, going through cycle after cycle, even injecting herself with medications,” he said.
He noted that witnessing her strength reshaped his own perspective on partnership and sacrifice, making him question conventional ideas about what should or shouldn’t be considered “burdens” in a home.
After years of waiting, the couple eventually welcomed their son, Hezekiah—a moment Banky W described as the culmination of persistence, faith, and shared strength through difficult seasons.
For him, the experience wasn’t just about becoming a parent but about learning the depth of resilience required to build a life together.
” My wife is not good at cooking but i cook and it works for us”
– Banky W pic.twitter.com/YofdAfVaRd
— Metro Naija (@metronaija) May 1, 2026