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Simi finds it beautiful when men cry and are vulnerable
Nigerian singer Simi shared her views on men being open about their feelings, expressing a deep appreciation for vulnerability during a discussion on the 90’s Baby Show.
“I find it beautiful when men cry because I am surrounded by so many men that feel like they have to be macho all the time or they have to be strong,” she began, acknowledging the societal pressure on men to constantly project strength and toughness.
Simi emphasized that it’s important for men to feel comfortable expressing their emotions and not feel constrained by traditional expectations of masculinity. She highlighted how both men and women experience pain and hurt, and it’s healthy for men to show vulnerability and not always suppress their feelings.
“When you see men and women go through the same kind of pain or hurt, the man says, ‘I have to be strong for my wife or for my women or kids.’ I think that’s okay, but I don’t think strength means not being vulnerable or not crying,” Simi explained.
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She pointed out that suppressing emotions can lead to internal struggles and potentially harmful consequences in the long run. Simi expressed her belief that men crying signifies a sense of safety and trust in their relationships, where they can be open and let go of their emotions.
“I like it when men cry because it means that you feel safe with who you’re with, you can be vulnerable, and you can let go,” she said.
Drawing from her observations as an African woman, Simi noted the prevalent roles of protector and provider that African men often feel pressured to embody, but stressed the importance of emotional release as a form of health and well-being.
In conclusion, Simi’s perspective underscores the value of emotional honesty and vulnerability for both men and women, challenging stereotypes and promoting healthier expressions of masculinity.
Watch the full interview below: