Nigerian global star Tems has shared a deeply personal reflection on how fame and her music career have reshaped her emotionally, saying it has taught her to embrace vulnerability and let people in more freely.
Speaking in an interview with Dose of Society, the two-time Grammy winner explained that before her rise in the industry, she struggled with being overly independent and often kept people at a distance.
As she put it: “Being an artist has changed my life. There are a lot of people that know me. It made me grow, I had to shed a lot of habits that were holding me back—one of those things was my hyper-independency and the thing I do where I push people away. I have now learned to embrace love and just be open, and be free to give love and be vulnerable without feeling odd,” she stated.
For Tems, the journey into music hasn’t just been about global success and accolades—it has also been a process of emotional growth. She explained that constantly being in the public eye and connecting with different people forced her to confront parts of herself she once leaned on as protection.
Now, she says she’s learning to exist in a softer space—one where love, openness, and vulnerability no longer feel like weaknesses, but part of her evolution as both a person and an artist.