Grammy-winning singer Tems is giving fans a deeper look into her heart and the qualities she believes should never be overlooked when choosing a partner.
In a recently resurfaced interview clip, the Afrobeats powerhouse spoke openly about what matters most to her in a romantic relationship.
Far from the glitz of stardom, Tems made it clear that the foundation of love, for her, begins with something simple but profound: friendship.
According to her, any partner who isn’t trying to build a genuine bond is already waving a red flag.
“Someone that’s not trying to be your friend, is a red flag. Anybody that isn’t curious about you, and doesn’t want to know more about you,” she said.
Tems went on to explain that curiosity, the desire to understand who she is beyond the stage lights and global fame, is a crucial ingredient. Without that, she believes emotional closeness becomes impossible.
Known for her intentionality and introspective nature, Tems (born Temilade Openiyi) has long been admired for the depth she brings to both her music and her private life.
Her recent comments have sparked conversations online, with many fans applauding her clarity and emotional intelligence.
Her words offer a rare window into the values guiding her personal relationships, a reminder that beneath the global acclaim lies a woman who prioritizes authenticity, connection, and the kind of love that sees beyond the spotlight.
Tems on her dating red flags ⛳
— “Someone that’s not trying to be your friend, is a red flag. Anybody that isn’t curious about you, and doesn’t want to know more about you” pic.twitter.com/4iHImSo5CR
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