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It takes me a while to forgive people who hurt me – Joeboy
Nigerian Afrobeat artist, Joseph Akinfenwa Donus, popularly known as Joeboy, has highlighted his challenge in forgiving people who wrong him.
On a recent episode of the Zero Conditions Podcast, the singer appeared as a guest and discussed his career and musical preferences. He mentioned how challenging it is to forgive those who have hurt him when the subject of “forgive and forget” was raised.
Joeboy stated that this is because he tries his best to do right by people. He also stressed that he takes it personally when people hurt him in ways he wouldn’t do to them.
He said, “It’s hard for me to forgive and forget, I can’t lie. I’m sorry but I’m trying though. I can hold a grudge because one thing I like to do when it comes to relationships with people is to make sure I do everything right. So when someone acts funny with me I take it personally because I’d never do that to you, why are you doing that to me? That’s why I take it personally.”
He continued by saying that, when he was able to forgive the offender, he would prefer not to have them in his area. His reasoning for doing this is related to the fact that he doesn’t cut people off right away, so if they manage to blow past all of their opportunities, he does.
He declared, “I might even forgive but it would take a while though, but I’d forgive, It’d be very difficult to give the person access again,” he stated.
The singer also cited his biggest takeaway on the topic of forgiveness by recalling a piece of advice a friend gave him. He has learned that reducing one’s expectations of other people helps a lot.